HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED WHY MEN CHEAT?

Believe me, as trivial as it may seem to you, this singular act has broken many homes . . . countless hearts and has even killed many. You need to imagine the pain, disappointment, frustration and anger with which female victims say: *"How could you do this to me? . . . after all I did . . . I gave you everything . . . I mean, EVERYTHING . . . blah . . . blah . . . blah . . . ."*

Hey! Slow down . . . let's take it easy. *CHEATING* is a  whole lot on it's own. No doubt, both males and females are guilty. However, our discourse of today shall center on the male counterpart. Now listen. It's important you call to mind that I am not writing this as a fellow who is righteous. Neither am I coming from the point of view of a fellow who has conquered. Rather, I am identifying with you as a brother in the struggle. *I'm no saint after all*. The words of _Kenny Kore_ would be just fine to describe my personality: *"I'm born again . . . not a saint to say."*

All right! It's high time we delved into the matter proper. The big question is: *'WHY DO MEN CHEAT?!'*

To be frank, nothing absolutely guarantees a man's fidelity. It takes *GRACE* and *conscious effort* to resist all such temptations. You may want to ask me 'Why?' Let  me try to explain.

It's no more news that *men are naturally promiscuous.* It's no excuse for cheating anyway, but it's a fact. Furthermore, a man has sex without necessarily being emotionally attached. That's one main thing that distinguishes male infidelity from female's.

A man cheats, not necessarily because his wife is not doing well enough (though that could be the reason or add to it); but because he just wants to satisfy his libido by sampling whatever comes his way. This is where *DISCIPLINE, CONSCIOUS EFFORT TO REMAIN FAITHFUL* and, above all, *GRACE* come in.

Don't be surprise that a woman can do everything humanly possible to please a man yet the man would cheat. Now, when a man cheats, he may not necessarily have lost his *LOYALTY* to his woman. That's why his infidelity is kept in utmost secrecy and such men (the responsible ones though) do everything to please their wives.

In truth, there are a whole lot of factors which may cause infidelity in general. No doubt, the woman's actions, as well, is a significant factor. Yet, it is important to point out that *MEN WOULD STILL CHEAT EVEN IF THEIR WIVES PLEASE THEM IN ALL RAMIFICATIONS*. It's not necessarily about what you do as a woman. Neither is it necessarily about what you don't do . . . *it's just in them . . . it's in the blood . . . it's in the 'adamic' nature of theirs.*

That's why it is advised for a lady to marry a man who, to an extent, has the *FEAR OF GOD*. Having the fear of God doesn't mean one is a saint; no! Neither does it mean one wouldn't be tempted. It still doesn't guarantee that one wouldn't fall. Rather, it makes one calls to mind the implications of one's actions and try whatever it takes to resist such temptations. And in the event of a fall, you stand up tall . . . make a resolution not to go that way again. That's why I said it takes *GRACE*!

Additionally, since men are easily aroused by what they see . . . they just feel like inserting their staff in to any hole inside any voluptuous body they come across. It's  just natural. Such tendency is in women as well but men have got a higher tendency.

Finally, I advise that women try to understand the nature of men in general. *A good woman should fight the battle of infidelity with her man.* As a woman, play your own role well . . . do all u can to please him. And when he still cheats despite all that, consider him a *CHILD WHO WILL STILL TRY TO EAT SAND OR STONE NO MATTER HOW LONG YOU BREASTFEED HIM*. Do you just leave such a child? Hell no! You take the child, spank him! Make him realize sand /stone is not meant to be eaten . . . end it all by breastfeeding him again. Now . . . I know that it's not easy as well. It takes *GRACE* and *VIRTUE*. But believe me, *your marriage is worth every bit of the efforts you can put in*. Have you forgotten the contract you signed? *'FOR BETTER FOR WORSE'.* For worse means you don't decide to leave when things go wrong . . . you stay to fix the mess. The same applies to men. When your wife is messing up . . . remember: 'For better for worse'. Ladies mess up as well . . . some cheat even way better than men. Well . . . that shall probably be a story for another day.

In conclusion, *"CAN TWO WORK TOGETHER UNLESS THEY AGREE?"* The answer to that, I believe, is clear. To accommodate,  tolerate and understand each other's inadequacies, both man and wife need *GRACE, VIRTUES . . . PERSEVERANCE*. It may not be easy, but as long as you're both trying,  none should let go. May the Omnipotent help us all. Amen.

PS: I hope this helps someone.